a lesson learned within a lesson

April 20th, 2009

TheThinkMovement.com by j. sakiya sandifer

One of the many lessons that I’ve learned in life is totally accepting people for who they really are instead of trying to change them to fit my ideal.  Being a person who rarely focuses on what has been done, but more on what needs to be done, that was no easy task.

A lesson learned within the lesson is acceptance does not necessarily mean involvement.  When I say that I totally accept someone for who they are, it is often misunderstood to mean that it also includes an open invite into my life.  Of course this is absurd to me.  For example…when I accept you for being a horrible driver, I think it would be quite idiotic of me to then allow you to drive my car.

It seems that some people want it both ways…accept me being irresponsible, but treat me like I’m the most responsible.  When and where does that make sense?

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  • 1. Mo  |  April 21st, 2009 at 6:45 PM

    feel like youre narrating my life right now

  • 2. whu  |  April 22nd, 2009 at 2:07 AM

    no doubt son. .
    Always the issue of perception rearing it’s ugly head when ‘paraphrasing’ is really not necessary.
    What i say is what >>i<< mean somehow comes to mind. .

    Work in progress myself, though i can certainly take a great suggestion. .focus on the need as opposed to the mistake.

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