why do you have sex?

December 12th, 2008

TheThinkMovement.com by j. sakiya sandifer

Many scientists assume people have sex for simple and straightforward reasons such as to experience sexual pleasure or to reproduce, but new research at The University of Texas at Austin reveals hundreds of varied and complex motivations that range from the spiritual to the vengeful.

After conducting one of the most comprehensive studies on why people have sex, psychology researchers David Buss and Cindy Meston uncovered 237 motivations, which appear in the August issue of Archives of Sexual Behavior.

People’s motivations ranged from the mundane (”I was bored”) to the spiritual (”I wanted to feel closer to God”) and from the altruistic (”I wanted the person to feel good about himself/herself”) to the manipulative (”I wanted to get a promotion”).

Some said they had sex to feel powerful, others to debase themselves. Some wanted to impress their friends, others to harm their enemies (”I wanted to break up a rival’s relationship”).

Physical reasons such as to reduce stress (”It seemed like good exercise”), feel pleasure (”It’s exciting”), improve or expand experiences (”I was curious about sex”), and the physical desirability of their partner (”The person was a good dancer”).

Goal-based reasons, including utilitarian or practical considerations (”I wanted to have a baby”), social status (”I wanted to be popular”) and revenge (”I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease”).

Emotional reasons such as love and commitment (”I wanted to feel connected”) and expression (”I wanted to say ‘thank you’”).

Insecurity-based reasons, including self-esteem (”I wanted the attention”), a feeling of duty or pressure (”My partner kept insisting”) and to guard a mate (”I wanted to keep my partner from straying”).

So again I ask you,why do you have sex?

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  • 1. theCEO  |  December 13th, 2008 at 2:22 PM

    Love and commitment

  • 2. ncprecise  |  December 13th, 2008 at 4:52 PM

    I love and RESPECT this site so please excuse my blunt response… but simply put: I have sex to bust a nut…

    R.I.P. Bernie Mac
    ….”Bust a muh-f!@#$n nut!!!”

  • 3. Mo  |  December 13th, 2008 at 9:20 PM

    its fun

    and connecting with someone on that level. whether or not its on some relationship shit

  • 4. leandra  |  December 15th, 2008 at 2:03 AM


    but “sex” isn’t the only way to get off. so again…i ask you, why do you have sex? ;)

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